This story was created as part of 海角破解版's 鈥淪ound of Us鈥 audio storytelling workshop. We are featuring stories about marriage. With the proportion of never-married people 40 and older at , our community storytellers explore why they got married or not 鈥 and, if they are married, how they're making their unions work. Tell your own story!
Uh oh 鈥 my 22nd wedding anniversary was coming up, and I needed a quick and easy way to acknowledge the occasion. I headed off to the local drugstore in search of the perfect card.
"Taco 鈥榖out a perfect match," one card said. Another featured two champagne glasses clinking. There was another one that featured Snoopy 鈥 complete with a recording of the famous .
I loved browsing the wide selection, from pop-up cards to cards with attachments and cards that play music. One card even had a picture of fireworks that light up.
Worth the money?
I used to make my own anniversary cards. I'd cut out little hearts from my leftover wedding invitations and thank-you cards and glue them to paper. Then I'd write a special message.
I sometimes wonder: Are manufactured cards meaningful and worth the cost? Some of my friends think so.
"They鈥檙e gonna pop open and butterflies and doves are gonna fly out and it鈥檚 gonna play a song and it鈥檚 gonna have recorded voices and all this other stuff," said , a nonprofit manager in Cleveland.
Arrington said her husband, in particular, is a big fan of giving and receiving cards.
"The cards are able to say things that he can鈥檛 probably say himself, like showing appreciation, the sentimental part of our relationship, thank you," Arrington explained. "And then if he tries to write a message at the bottom, usually he flubs it, which is OK. That鈥檚 not his jam."
Brooke Zelwin is a graphic designer who enjoys picking out cards for her husband.
"I am always on the lookout for a card that is going to be specific to our relationship, make him laugh," Zelwin said. "Because the cards that are like, 鈥業 appreciate all you do鈥 鈥 I mean, after 17 years of marriage and three kids, I think it would be nice to get like a, 鈥業 still find you smoking hot鈥 kind of card."
An analytical business
But some people are cynical about greeting cards. My friend Mike, who worked for nearly 10 years at Northeast Ohio-based and asked that his last name not be used, said he does not buy cards for his wife.
"It鈥檚 a very analytical business," Mike told me. "Statisticians look at these cards to say, 'This is a good card, this is a bad card, what鈥檚 the value of this card?' Because they want you to pull it out and fall in love with it. And then you鈥檙e not gonna put it back."
I showed Mike my favorite card that I've given my husband. I think it's a charming card, full of little foil hearts.
I told him I imagined some adorable graphic designer working at a desk with plants around her coming up with beautiful, cute little designs.
"This card was created in a cubicle, probably passed around different departments and went through some board meetings," Mike said.
Yikes, Mike! He had a lot to say about greeting cards. And he was just getting started.
Greeting cards contribute to clutter, he told me, and many can't be recycled because of the glue and special materials used to create them. He said he thinks people should come up with their own personal sentiments and not rely on commercial greeting cards to replace original, authentic expressions of love.
"There鈥檚 a little bit of a lost art of writing. People are afraid to express themselves with their own words and I think greeting cards can just perpetuate that," Mike said.
I understand Mike's point, but cards still serve a role in my marriage. They鈥檙e more than paper and glue. They reflect milestones, special occasions, emotions and the evolution of her relationship.
So I'll still buy a card for my wedding anniversary. But I'll write something special inside. Thanks to my friend Brooke, I'll personalize it in a way her husband will love: 鈥淗appy anniversary. I still find you smoking hot!鈥

Lisa Chiu is a writer, editor, storyteller and communications strategist. She lives with her family in Solon, Ohio.
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